Here’s a question: How many of you like to watch youtube videos? I ask because whenever I see a new video from fitness guru Whitney Simmons come out I’m on it like white on rice. I like her because she’s relatable and genuine. I’m consistently watching videos or reading about people that I see myself in and that I aspire to be like. It’s human nature.
We do this to feel connected to something or someone because connection gives us meaning and purpose in our lives. When we feel connected to ourselves and others we feel like we belong. The reason why Whitney Simmons has such a large following and why millions (over 2.7 million) of people feel connected when they watch her videos or read her Instagram posts is because she is vulnerable.
Brené Brown has studied vulnerability for 20+ years and her research shows that people with a deep sense of self-worthiness are the ones who “fully embrace vulnerability”. When we embrace uncertainty and put our true selves out there for the world to see, we are showing vulnerability. Being vulnerable is extremely difficult because it’s the process of emotionally exposing ourselves which takes courage and bravery.
Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our most accurate measure of courageBrené Brown
Some examples of vulnerability are….
Calling a friend that just got diagnosed with terminal cancer
Getting lunch with a family that unexpectedly lost their son
Replying to texts
Making a first appointment with a therapist to work through grief and insecurities
Saying “I love you” first
Starting a business
Coming out as gay
These are all actions that can evoke sheer nervousness, nauseousness, and anxiousness. These are things you may have been avoiding because they’re scary and seem dangerous. They’ll make your heart race, but will lead you to an amazing place of joy and greater self-worth. They’ll lead you to a better connection with yourself because “vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our most accurate measure of courage,” she Brené Brown.
The more vulnerable we allow ourselves to be, the more joy we will have. Why? Because meaningful connections come from being vulnerable and being uncomfortable. You’re going to be uncomfortable before you’re truly comfortable.
Try putting your true self on the table each and every day and see how your life changes for the better. You’ll begin to see success and you’ll whole-heartedly believe you deserve it.
- Ted Talks – The Power of Vulnerability (20 minutes, 48+ million views)
- Whitney Simmons Youtube channel
- Habits for Wellbeing
- Jen Lindemann, Health Coach & wellness blogger
Embrace vulnerability. Be brave.