“People with strong boundaries are not afraid of a temper tantrum or an argument or getting hurt. People with weak boundaries are terrified of those things and will constantly mold their own behavior to fit the highs and lows of their emotional rollercoaster. People with strong boundaries understand that its unreasonable to think two people can accommodate each other 100% and fulfill every need the other has. People with strong boundaries understand they may hurt someone’s feelings sometimes, but ultimately they can’t determine how other people feel. People with strong boundaries understand it’s not about controlling one another’s emotions, but rather each partner supporting each other in their individual growth in solving their own problems. It’s not about giving a fuck about everything your partner gives a fuck about, it’s about giving a fuck about your partner regardless of the fucks he or she gives. That’s unconditional love”.
You can’t try to always make your partner feel good. Conflict exists to show that someone is there for you unconditionally and it promotes trust. Conflict is necessary to maintain a healthy relationship. It’s okay to hash out differences… it creates openness, which creates trust. A perfect relationship isn’t a relationship at all.
Rejection and conflict builds boundaries and maintains a relationship. Learning from conflict is the best of all experiences.
-The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.
“Peace is not the absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” Ronald Reagan
This post is dedicated to my favorite guy: Don Amorosi, my dad. #DontStopBelievin